The team at Donnelly Wealth Advisors enjoys learning and stretching our minds by reading a good book. Paperback, hardcopy, or Kindle, we enjoy them all and hope you do as well. Whether it is a novel, a technical review or discovering new ideas and concepts, reading is an activity we all enjoy. We are initiating monthly “mini-book reviews” of our recent reads on our website’s Blog. They are written to inspire you to explore that book or another that strikes your fancy. Feel free to share your most recent reads with us!
One of the most interesting books I’ve read recently is “Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age” by Sherry Turkle.
The following is a brief summary of what the book is about:
Our technological laden world is one in which the art of communication is withering. Many of us find that we are mostly communicating using e-mail and texting. The downside of this electronic tether is that we have sacrificed conversation for a mere connection.
The “cold” art of digital communication allows one to revise and edit our responses and project the image of ourselves that we wish. Instead of interacting in real time and being faced with the possibility of making a fool of yourself or getting it wrong, you resort to the digital solution. Digital communication allows you to remove yourself from the risk of conversation.
People turn to their phones because they are “bored.” People are bored because they have become hooked on the constant feed of connection, information and entertainment. The result is a flight from conversation. We no longer engage in open-ended spontaneous conversation where ideas are expressed and we are fully present.
Even the presence of a phone on the table inhibits conversation, as it implies that something more important than the current conversation will take precedence. Even a silent phone leaves us less connected.
Conversation is the cornerstone for relationships in our personal and business lives. It builds empathy, friendship, love, learning, and productivity. Many of the things people struggle with, love, relationships and work can be helped by conversation. Human relationships are inherently messy and demanding. When you “solve” issues with technology, you go from conversation to connection.
Put your “smart” phone down and pick up a book and read it. Then sit and discuss it with others. You both will gain from the experience and share valuable time together that can strengthen your relationship.
– Rich Donnelly, Founder and CEO